Don’t Be Critical, Just Critique.

Momma always said that you’re your own biggest critic.  In my later years, I’ve learned that this is true.  No matter how many times I've been told, "No worries, it's not a big deal" it always is to me. Making mistakes, even though they are an important part of the learning process, isn’t any fun. I’ve come to realize that there are all kinds of people in the world when it comes to mistakes, how they make them, and how they deal with it. If you’re like me and you want to learn something, you internalize it over and over in your head.

What could I have done differently? What should I do differently in the future? At what point does your personal critique become personal criticism? What is the point that you think you’re “critical” and not just "critiquing"? When you realize that you’re crossing that line, how do you reel it back in?

I draw the line at anything that involves the phrase "How could I have done that" reverberating in my brain. It's negative and all it does is make you think about the mistake.  Instead, think "how can I do better next time?", instead of just beating yourself up, you're taking what happened (no matter what it is) and learning from it. It always helps me to take a negative thing and spin it to a positive. Try that next time you think you’re being too hard on yourself.

What are some of the things you do to reel yourself back in? How do you take a negative experience and learn from it, rather than just letting the experience keep you down? Everything can help you grow, are you finding the area where you can grow and learn?