The Frayed Knot


A rope walks into a bar, asks for a drink, and the bartender tells him that ropes aren’t served. The rope goes to another bar and gets the same response, and this keeps happening all over town. The more he goes around the town, the more upset he gets and he starts pulling apart at the seams. The rope gets angry and twists him up as he walks into the last bar in town, sits down, and orders a drink. “Are you a rope?” The bartender asks with a quizzical look. Angrily the rope snaps back, “I’m a frayed knot!”

He didn’t have a plan on the way to his larger goal. Had our little rope thought of his first step, it probably would have been to Google search “bars that serve ropes”. He could have saved himself a lot of stress.

Chris Brogan wrote about success being little “flags” along the way towards a larger goal and in order to stay focused, you have to set little goals on the way towards a big goal.

Even if the little flags you set seem unnecessary, you should still put them down. Not only will it make a guide for you to follow on the path towards success, but it will also give you a bit of motivation in the event that you feel like you’re stuck.

Celebrate the little victories along the way, briefly patting yourself on the back for the things you have managed to achieve.  Don’t just celebrate yourself, if someone helped you or offered input, celebrate with them. They earned it too.

What I think to be the most important part of Chris’s suggestion is that these victories are yours. Set your own goals, work them at your own pace, and never think that someone who doesn’t have the same goal set isn’t “doing it right”. Everyone sets their own goals and their own pace and you have to respect that.

Using this focus you are less likely to become that poor rope that got all twisted up from frustration. What do you do to keep yourself from getting discouraged? Do you have a set of goals like Chris suggests or are you just naturally laid back?